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Effecting Change

Reaching back into my archives to bring you a piece I wrote last year on Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr's Birthday.

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On this day I encourage you to read and reflect on a speech delivered five months before I was born by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. It is a celebration of a milestone in a battle, yet also a signal that the battle is not yet over. We’ve made some progress since then, but when the baton was passed on to our generation … what did we do with it?

Did we run till our feet got blistered or sore? Did we stand up for injustices in our homes, community, churches or jobs? Or did we pass the baton without even trying?

I've never been in the army but I have practiced marching for my "house: Melba” while at school in the West Indies. The same synchronicity and precision was needed and the "house" was as strong or as weak as its slowest, uncoordinated or day dreaming (yes me… LOL) member.

Instead of benching the slow, the uncoordinated or the day dreamer, under the guidance of the coach, the rest of the house encouraged and figured out a way to compensate for the lack of speed, coordination or concentration of that member until each was up to speed. This ensured that the weight of loss or victory of the "house" did not rest solely on the shoulders of the one member, but on the one who lead the house: the coach.

Our battle was waged against three other houses, one named Critchlow and two others, the names of which I can’t recall. Critchlow sticks in my mind, because they were the house to beat if Melba wanted to move into its rightful place as the #1 house on campus.

So we practiced, in public and in secret. Left, right, left, right, left, right, halt, one, two. We practiced turning our eyes (and heads) to the right on command. We were even so bold as to throw in a skip step. We practiced making our arms swing to shoulder height for every step we took, member by member practicing until there was total unison.

Now who knows that you don’t realize that you’re uncoordinated or how much skill it takes to walk and swing your arms in tandem, until someone tells you to slow it down or to do it in front of others?

Our Christian and civic duties are just like that. At times, we want to stand for what's right, and that stand may take us out of our comfort zone so we delay it until "next time". Or maybe, we might anonymously stand by convincing someone else to stand in our stead or writing an anonymous letter or maybe we just feel that one person cannot make a difference so we do nothing. Had Martin Luther King Jr. believed that fallacy, we would not now be living his dream.

Dr. King realized that there was need for practice, in public and in secret (prayer). He made sure that his skills were up to par by doing what was needed and then going the extra mile (education: high school, BA & PHD). He found a team (church) and they followed the instructions of their coach (God). As a result, spritual and civic change began to occur.

So now years later, on what would have been Dr. King's seventy-seventh birthday. The question posed is: what have you or I done to effect a change for the next generation?

Change begins with you and me. Using Dr. King as an example, we need to catch hold of the vision that God has for our lives and then make our stand. When you and I are bold enough to take a stand, regardless of the discomfort, the feeling of being out on a ledge and the feeling of helplessness or maybe even hopelessness. I daresay that when we do venture out onto that ledge, we will meet others there, who ventured out as well and by joining hands, we will pull away from the edge ... we'll still be on the ledge, but we won't be alone in the danger zone.

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Our God Is Marching On!
March 25, 1965. Montgomery, Ala.

My dear and abiding friends, Ralph Abernathy, and to all of the distinguished Americans seated here on the rostrum, my friends and co-workers of the state of Alabama, and to all of the freedom-loving people who have assembled here this afternoon from all over our nation and from all over the world: Last Sunday, more than eight thousand of us started on a mighty walk from Selma, Alabama. We have walked through desolate valleys and across the trying hills. We have walked on meandering highways and rested our bodies on rocky byways. Some of our faces are burned from the outpourings of the sweltering sun. Some have literally slept in the mud. We have been drenched by the rains. [Audience:] (Speak) Our bodies are tired and our feet are somewhat sore.

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By Dee On Monday, January 21, 2008 At 4:58 PM

9/11 Tribute - We Can Choose

I'd just like to share a reflective piece I wrote today entitled, "We Can Choose" for my monthly column over at Blogging in Black:

Hi Folks,

Good morning and welcome to “Dee Speaks” day at Blogging in Black. Right now I’m sitting in my quiet bedroom in Whitehall, PA, a far cry from Ozone Park, NY six years ago.

Six years ago, I was in my home office, working on the inventory for my online bookstore, my largest concerns were processing and filling orders, making sure my papers were done for Bible School and pulling myself together after my recent uncoupling. When my cell phone rang (a miracle in itself) I was startled out of my own little world by the sobbing of my daughter who was away at boarding school in MA.

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By Dee On Tuesday, September 11, 2007 At 10:10 AM

T.G.I.F.

Good Morning,

It's the first Friday of September. The kids have gone back to school, the high school graduates are now freshmen and recent graduates have now embarked on new careers.

I spoke with my daughter this morning and she had a not so great day yesterday. It was her third day teaching third graders and they were testing her.

As she told me of some of the shenanigans and I tried not to chuckle, my mind played flashbacks of her at that age and our many weekend trips to the library sharing time reading a good book.

I pictured her doing the same with her students and I kinda sorta patted myself on the back for playing a part in her decision to share her love of knowledge with others.

I even came up with a new acronym for TGIF:

  • T - hank
  • G - od
  • I - 'm
  • F - ruitful!

That thought was swiftly followed by the following scripture:

"You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit ... fruit that will last." ~John 15:16a

As you go about your day, bear in mind the many opportunities presented to share your love of something with someone and thus plant a seed that might bear some fruit.

Have a wonderful day and an even greater weekend!

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By Dee On Friday, September 07, 2007 At 11:40 AM

Happy Birthday to Me!

Hi Folks,

It's my birthday today and I'm lazing it away in the best way possible. I thanked God ahead of time (around 1 am this morning) for waking up. LOL. I've read a book, chatted a bit and am now updating my sites and thanking my numerous online friends for their felicitations.

Oh, what about the cards and the presents? I received and opened those early. The family (except for my mom and me are all in Trinidad & Tobago, the land of my birth). The new picture shows off my new haircut courtesy of my daughter. We had a "ma and me" day last week Tuesday. I traveled to New York and realized that I was getting a small town mentality. There were skads of chesteses falling out of tops (the new style, I was informed) and I was horrified!

Also, every three minutes or so I would stop dead in the middle of conversation and lose my train of thought. Why? Men! They were everywhere in all different shades from pink to deep mocha chocolate. The pickings over here in Smalltown, PA are slim to non-existent so I didn't know how to act. My daughter thought I was hi-larious.

Anyway, I feel that I should have some deep thought to share. After all I'm 42 today and they keep telling me that wisdom is a by product of age. However, all I keep coming up with is gratitude.

I'm estactic that my daughter graduated from college and has a job! (I'm also thrilled to have one myself... lol), I'm grateful that no matter how bad life gets at times, I continue to learn and grow--to adjust. I'm grateful that my gifts are supporting me, so I'll continue to write and create. I'm grateful for the opportunity to work with teens, the next generation needs all the help they can get, and I'm wired to almost remain an unaging teen myself. But most of all I'm just grateful to be here.

Peace,
Dee

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By Dee On Wednesday, August 15, 2007 At 1:28 PM

What Comes Out of You?

Hi Folks,

The following question was posed recently in one of my online groups:

Do any of my sistas get into poetry/writing? If so, please let me know. This is a passion of mine. Just wondering if anybody was out there!!!!!!!!!


Immediately I responded by saying that I'm not a poet(ess) per se, but every once in a while, I get blessed.

I pointed them to my sparse contributions, which you may find in the poetry section on here as well as on my Wordpress blog.

When I thought about it some more I realized that every instance of creation, was proceeded by a moment of strong emotion or angst. This in my book doesn't make me a poet(ess), however it does make me great at channeling what is in me and pouring it out in a fashion that makes it of value to myself and others.

Some examples of poetry of value, would be that of Maya Angelou, Helen Steiner Rice and the King James Version of Psalms.

Each manage to incorporate one or more of the following into what came out of them: Flow, impact, motion, evolution, (not the theory of, but the fact that it begins one place and ends somewhere else), inspiration, comfort, affirmation, heart break, and so much more.

I written many poems since I was fifteen, some have been lost in moves from one apartment to another, and alas, I am horrible at remembering them. It's as though once I get them out of me, the carthartic effect kicks in and I can no longer remember them... all except my very first poem entitled: A Friend

I wonder in this world today
if anyone has a friend?
Not someone who hates you
and pretends to like you
But someone one who's really sincere

*A friend who is loving
and also real giving
So when you need her she's there

How can you tell if your friend is sincere?
and how can you tell if she's not?
It's really a matter of trust because
a friend comes with no guarantee.

* that verse right there is iffy cause I thought I remembered it all, but as I began to type it up, I realized whoopsie ... I didn't quite remember it all. But you guys get the gist... right?

So now that leads us to the question of the day. In moments of strong emotion or angst. What do you create? What comes out of you?

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By Dee On Tuesday, July 24, 2007 At 11:46 PM

What Is In a Name?

I probably haven't always hated my name (Diane...pronounced Dee-Anne). As a toddler, I was labeled "DiDi." As I grew older, it metamorphosed into "Dids" or "that darn child!" In fact, if I recall correctly, my name being mispronounced hardly competed with the incessant urge to play or seek happiness, until an older sibling alerted me to the fact, that each and every occurrence was if not a hideous crime, at least a slight of indecent proportions.

What was a ten-year-old to do? Being the youngest of eight, my place in the family hiererchy was set. I should be seen and not heard, when told to jump, the only acceptable response was, "How high?" I had jurisdiction over the backyard chickens, one of the dogs, (can one ever have jurisdiction over a cat?) and my imaginary Indian friends. (Playing Cowboys and Indians was not yet considered politically incorrect)

I felt ill-equipped, rightfully so by the angst of the years that followed, to handle that assertive role. The anticipation of the mispronunciation of my name, became larger than life. In my defense, I do recall timidly correcting an adult or two, but alas my hard fought bravery dissipated, when my brave utterance appeared to fall on deaf ears.

In Junior High School, with the influence of Spanish class, I added an accent so that my name would read as Díane instead of Diane. Little did I realize the difficulties in explaining the job description of an accent during a simple introduction. My next brainstorm occurred in High School. I began writing Deanne on my class papers, until my 11th grade English teacher gently explained the illegality of that to me.

These adventures continued until around age twenty-two. Fresh out of brainstorms and tired of acquiescing outwardly and castigating myself inwardly, I made a decision. I did what any self-respecting, self-confessed coward would do when their back’s against the wall. I resolved to change my name.

Since I felt that a legal name change would be hurtful and maybe even a little disrespectful to my parents, I settled for the derivative, "Dee." That decision coincided with an instance of victimization. As a result, I saw that name change as part of my new "take charge" persona. I took martial arts classes, I pumped iron and I developed a new "attitude." Vic-who-tim? Not I, ever again!

Two years ago, while chatting with a Minister I met online (yes...Minister and online...to be addressed in another post). Things finally came around to the exchange of names and I gave him my legal name, Diane and told him I'd always disliked it and why. He asked me what my name meant and I didn't know. He did a quick search online and within five minutes, I had a new lease on life!

My name meant Divine! Divine! Can you believe it! Suddenly, my whole life began to make sense. Here I'd been repudiating the name that explained me...to me. I'd recently learned in one of my Bible classes that the naming of a child in Biblical times took a bit of thought. Not because of the need for a different sounding name, or a name that would perpetuate the ego of the parent, but a name that would call forth or predict, if you will, the character of the child.

I'd always been a bit out of step, not quite in synch with my peers. I'd always felt I didn't quite fit the mold. Now, I'd come full circle. The same way I'd hated, denigrated, denied and dismissed my name and in essence myself, for my name and myself worth had become synonymous. In the same manner I'd dismissed God's call to service, as imaginary delusions of grandeur.

Why would God want to use me? I was damaged, despoiled goods, wasn't I? In fact my exact words were..."Preach? I sing, that's what I do!" Despite my many attempts to explain to God why He'd really made a mistake this time, upon hearing what my name meant...I figure...God had the last laugh after all.

I was a breech birth baby and apparently a confused one at that. Not only was I facing the wrong direction, I was intent on continuing my journey in the wrong direction, apparently unwilling to experience new birth. Although I'd heard the many recountings of my birth through the power of prayer, firmly set in my pattern of parallelism, the more glimpses of the spiritual realm I perceived, the further I ran.the wonder and awe of the testimony had become buried by the attacks of life. But no matter how far or fast I ran physically, mentally, emotionally and/or spiritually, the fact still remained...I was destined from birth.

At this point, you're probably expecting a triumphant announcement that from that point onward, I've never introduced myself as "Dee" again and proudly embraced my birthname "Diane." Well...this is keeping-it-real-for God blogspot...so I'll just say that while I'm becoming more at ease in my spirit, my calling, and my name...thirty-seven years of self-hatred, is not so easily erased in two years, but it is mitigated by my change in perspective.

That being, that it's not about who man says I am..."Diane"...but about who God says I am..."Divine."

Peace,
Dee


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Choosing a name for your baby can be difficult. Many names have indian origin without people realizing it. Various forms of Indian art have integrated into our culture.

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By Dee On Wednesday, June 01, 2005 At 1:37 AM